You’ve been doing all the homework to verbalize your personal style. As you may have discovered, it’s hard to show visually what you can’t say verbally. Maybe the exercise of finding your adjectives has been relatively easy - if you’re reading the Good Ick there’s a good shot that the way you describe yourself (and therefore your style- which is a reflection of self) is chill, modern and classic. And if not in those exact words, then a strong synonym tends to describe the core of your personal style. Now, after lots of digging, focusing on the “why” of what you wear versus the “what” of what you wear, you’ve identified the modifier. That one word that requires a bit of soul searching, and probably trial and error, to identify. It’s also the word that’s highly worth discovering because it describes the essence of what you want to leave behind when you exit a room, what you would want your epitaph to read: “Amy was someone who was contentious and determined but never took herself too seriously and could find humor in the most absurd of situations.” Therefore, my modifier is “humor.” Many of you have written, thinking you were complete, that you had found your modifier. Let’s say you tell me it’s “edgy.” My question to you now is, what does that mean to you? Does it mean “someone who is tough as nails and a force to be reckoned with?” Or maybe “someone who never stood down to a fight for something she believed in and could be counted on by all?” Thinking in terms of the epitaph will help you round out your modifier - it’s a way to be very honest with yourself. Which isn’t easy and why finding your modifier is something done well in private. You, a pen and some paper.
Now that many of you have found it, putting it into practice is sometimes daunting. It shouldn’t be, so I’ll help break it down for you. The most frequent DM’s in my feed ask about how to find the items that will help communicate their modifier. What I’ll show you here is that it’s not about matching the modifier to the item. One item can work for myriad modifiers- it’s all in how it’s styled. I’ll show you what I mean:
The Victor shoe. One shoe, multiple modifiers. Depending.